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Life & Mortality Quote by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

"It is difficult to accept death in this society because it is unfamiliar. In spite of the fact that it happens all the time, we never see it"

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Death is everywhere in the statistics and almost nowhere in the room. Kubler-Ross is naming a modern sleight of hand: we live in a culture saturated with mortality as an abstraction while being spared its physical, communal presence. The line works because it flips the usual explanation. We tell ourselves death is hard because it is final, because it is tragic, because we fear pain. She argues its special terror is stranger: death has been made unfamiliar through design.

The subtext is an indictment of institutional convenience disguised as compassion. Hospitals professionalize dying; funeral homes sanitize the body; euphemisms ("passed", "lost") tidy up the language. Even grief gets managed into schedules and leave policies. The result is a society that treats death like a rare accident rather than a constant condition. When it finally arrives, it feels like a violation of normal life instead of part of it.

Context matters: Kubler-Ross built her career pushing against mid-century medical culture that often hid terminal patients from the truth, prioritizing order over honesty. Her work insisted on proximity - listening to the dying, letting them speak, refusing to outsource the mess to systems built for efficiency. This quote carries that mission in miniature. It's less a meditation than a critique of a social arrangement: we have engineered death out of sight, then acted shocked that we don't know how to live with it.

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Kubler-Ross, Elisabeth. (2026, January 17). It is difficult to accept death in this society because it is unfamiliar. In spite of the fact that it happens all the time, we never see it. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-difficult-to-accept-death-in-this-society-2967/

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Kubler-Ross, Elisabeth. "It is difficult to accept death in this society because it is unfamiliar. In spite of the fact that it happens all the time, we never see it." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-difficult-to-accept-death-in-this-society-2967/.

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"It is difficult to accept death in this society because it is unfamiliar. In spite of the fact that it happens all the time, we never see it." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-difficult-to-accept-death-in-this-society-2967/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.

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Elisabeth Kubler-Ross (July 8, 1926 - August 24, 2004) was a Psychologist from USA.

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