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Life & Wisdom Quote by Virginia Woolf

"It is fatal to be a man or woman pure and simple: one must be a woman manly, or a man womanly"

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Pure masculinity or pure femininity, Woolf warns, is a dead end: an identity so airtight it becomes a kind of intellectual coffin. The provocation lands because it flips the era's supposed natural order into a diagnosis of cultural sickness. “Fatal” isn’t decorative; it’s a verdict on what happens when society trains people to perform gender as destiny - narrowing perception, throttling imagination, turning the mind into a single-use tool.

Woolf’s phrasing is slyly surgical. “Pure and simple” echoes the language of moral hygiene and Victorian classification, then she punctures it. The remedy she offers is not androgyny as a fashion statement but as an artistic and psychic necessity: a mind capable of moving between codes, borrowing strengths, resisting the bureaucratic binaries that govern who gets to speak with authority. “Woman manly” and “man womanly” aren’t cute inversions; they’re permission slips to trespass.

The context is Woolf’s broader argument (especially in A Room of One’s Own and later essays) that creativity depends on freedom from the cramped roles that patriarchy assigns. She’s writing in a Britain still sorting the aftershocks of suffrage, war, and shifting labor - moments when the old scripts looked less eternal and more like stage directions. The subtext is pointed: gender “purity” props up power by keeping traits like ambition, tenderness, logic, and empathy property-coded. Woolf’s line works because it turns gender into a toolkit, not a prison - and suggests the real threat isn’t ambiguity, but rigidity.

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TopicEquality
SourceA Room of One's Own (1929) — essay by Virginia Woolf; contains the oft-cited line about androgyny usually rendered "It is fatal to be a man or woman pure and simple; one must be womanly and manly."
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Woolf, Virginia. (2026, January 17). It is fatal to be a man or woman pure and simple: one must be a woman manly, or a man womanly. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-fatal-to-be-a-man-or-woman-pure-and-simple-28328/

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Woolf, Virginia. "It is fatal to be a man or woman pure and simple: one must be a woman manly, or a man womanly." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-fatal-to-be-a-man-or-woman-pure-and-simple-28328/.

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"It is fatal to be a man or woman pure and simple: one must be a woman manly, or a man womanly." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-fatal-to-be-a-man-or-woman-pure-and-simple-28328/. Accessed 11 Feb. 2026.

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Virginia Woolf

Virginia Woolf (January 25, 1882 - March 28, 1941) was a Author from United Kingdom.

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