"It is hard enough to make a plan for how you are going to spend an evening with somebody else. So to make a plan for how you are going to behave in 25 years seems based on a view of life that is incomprehensible to me"
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As an actor and writer whose persona often radiates anxious intelligence, Shawn turns uncertainty into a kind of ethics. The subtext is relational: even small plans collide with other people's needs, moods, and secrets. If you can't reliably choreograph a dinner with one unpredictable human, what does it mean to promise a future version of you-wiser, richer, calmer, more "settled"? It's a critique of the modern cult of the five-year plan, the retirement timeline, the tidy narrative arc. Those frameworks flatter us with control, then punish us when our bodies change, economies crash, love arrives sideways, or ambition simply mutates.
"Incomprehensible to me" is the stealth move. He doesn't declare planners foolish; he claims alienation from the worldview itself. That stance sounds modest but lands sharp: maybe the problem isn't your discipline, maybe it's the fantasy that life is a closed system. Shawn is arguing for humility in the face of time, but also for attention-now. The evening with somebody else is where reality happens: negotiated, messy, and unrepeatable.
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| Topic | Live in the Moment |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Shawn, Wallace. (2026, January 16). It is hard enough to make a plan for how you are going to spend an evening with somebody else. So to make a plan for how you are going to behave in 25 years seems based on a view of life that is incomprehensible to me. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-hard-enough-to-make-a-plan-for-how-you-are-98019/
Chicago Style
Shawn, Wallace. "It is hard enough to make a plan for how you are going to spend an evening with somebody else. So to make a plan for how you are going to behave in 25 years seems based on a view of life that is incomprehensible to me." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-hard-enough-to-make-a-plan-for-how-you-are-98019/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"It is hard enough to make a plan for how you are going to spend an evening with somebody else. So to make a plan for how you are going to behave in 25 years seems based on a view of life that is incomprehensible to me." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-hard-enough-to-make-a-plan-for-how-you-are-98019/. Accessed 21 Feb. 2026.










