"It is hard work to be good when you are very little and very hungry, and have many sticks to beat you, and no mother's lips to kiss you"
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Ouida’s genius here is the inventory of deprivations. “Many sticks to beat you” is blunt, almost ugly in its specificity; it refuses the tasteful euphemisms that polite society uses to keep cruelty offstage. Then comes the devastating counterweight: “no mother’s lips to kiss you.” She doesn’t say “no love” or “no family,” but a physical, ordinary act of comfort. The sentence is engineered to make punishment feel plentiful and affection scarce - a moral economy rigged from the start.
Context matters: Ouida wrote in a Victorian world that loved moral lessons and often treated poverty as a character flaw. This line is a quiet indictment of that worldview. It suggests that society produces the very “badness” it condemns, then congratulates itself for disciplining the poor rather than feeding them. The subtext is political without sounding like policy: if you want goodness, stop manufacturing hunger and bruises, and start giving children something to lean on besides fear.
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Ouida. (2026, January 15). It is hard work to be good when you are very little and very hungry, and have many sticks to beat you, and no mother's lips to kiss you. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-hard-work-to-be-good-when-you-are-very-147372/
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Ouida. "It is hard work to be good when you are very little and very hungry, and have many sticks to beat you, and no mother's lips to kiss you." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-hard-work-to-be-good-when-you-are-very-147372/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"It is hard work to be good when you are very little and very hungry, and have many sticks to beat you, and no mother's lips to kiss you." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-hard-work-to-be-good-when-you-are-very-147372/. Accessed 19 Feb. 2026.







