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Daily Inspiration Quote by Ellen Glasgow

"It is lovely, when I forget all birthdays, including my own, to find that somebody remembers me"

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A small confession, dressed as gratitude, with a needle hidden in the hem. Ellen Glasgow turns the social machinery of birthdays into a stage for ambivalence: she “forgets all birthdays” not as a cute quirk but as a deliberate opting out of ritualized obligation. The line tilts toward self-protection. If you refuse the calendar’s demands, you can’t be indicted for neglect; you can also avoid the vulnerable act of asking to be remembered.

What makes the sentence work is its double movement. First, the speaker diminishes herself through comic understatement, including “my own,” as if her existence is just another date she can misplace. Then comes the quiet reversal: despite her practiced detachment, she still wants the evidence of care. “Lovely” lands softly, but it’s doing heavy labor, naming a relief that’s almost embarrassing to admit. The subtext is that remembrance is sweetest when it arrives unearned, unsolicited, free of the transactional vibe that birthdays often carry: I remembered you, now you owe me.

Context helps: Glasgow built a career anatomizing the manners and emotional economies of the postbellum South, especially the ways women are trained into performance and restraint. This reads like a late, wry realism about intimacy in a culture of etiquette. She’s not romanticizing community; she’s praising the rare moment when affection slips past protocol and shows up anyway. The irony is gentle, but the vulnerability is real: forgetting can be armor, and being remembered is the crack that lets warmth in.

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APA Style (7th ed.)
Glasgow, Ellen. (2026, January 16). It is lovely, when I forget all birthdays, including my own, to find that somebody remembers me. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-lovely-when-i-forget-all-birthdays-125783/

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Glasgow, Ellen. "It is lovely, when I forget all birthdays, including my own, to find that somebody remembers me." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-lovely-when-i-forget-all-birthdays-125783/.

MLA Style (9th ed.)
"It is lovely, when I forget all birthdays, including my own, to find that somebody remembers me." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-lovely-when-i-forget-all-birthdays-125783/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.

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Ellen Glasgow

Ellen Glasgow (March 22, 1874 - November 21, 1945) was a Novelist from USA.

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