"It is misery, you know, unspeakable misery for the man who lives alone and who detests sordid, casual affairs; not old enough to do without women, but not young enough to be able to go and look for one without shame!"
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The cruel pivot is the double bind: “not old enough to do without women, but not young enough...without shame.” Pirandello turns aging into a social accusation. Youth is permitted to be hungry; age is expected to be dignified, which often means emotionally amputated. “Shame” is the real antagonist here, less personal than cultural: a community’s invisible policing of who is allowed to want, and how publicly.
As a playwright steeped in modernity’s unstable identities, Pirandello is also staging the fracture between inner life and public face. The speaker isn’t confessing lust; he’s confessing a fear of appearing ridiculous. That’s classic Pirandellian anxiety: the self as something you feel versus the self as something others read. The sentence’s cramped logic mimics the character’s cornered options, making solitude sound not serene but procedural - a life reduced to what’s permissible.
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| Topic | Loneliness |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Pirandello, Luigi. (2026, January 16). It is misery, you know, unspeakable misery for the man who lives alone and who detests sordid, casual affairs; not old enough to do without women, but not young enough to be able to go and look for one without shame! FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-misery-you-know-unspeakable-misery-for-the-95156/
Chicago Style
Pirandello, Luigi. "It is misery, you know, unspeakable misery for the man who lives alone and who detests sordid, casual affairs; not old enough to do without women, but not young enough to be able to go and look for one without shame!" FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-misery-you-know-unspeakable-misery-for-the-95156/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"It is misery, you know, unspeakable misery for the man who lives alone and who detests sordid, casual affairs; not old enough to do without women, but not young enough to be able to go and look for one without shame!" FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-misery-you-know-unspeakable-misery-for-the-95156/. Accessed 17 Feb. 2026.










