"It is not he who reviles or strikes you who insults you, but your opinion that these things are insulting"
About this Quote
The line works because it relocates agency without pretending the outside world is kind. Reviling and striking are real; he doesn’t deny harm. He targets the extra layer we add: the interpretation that harm equals humiliation. That distinction is the Stoic fulcrum between what happens to you and what you make of it. Epictetus isn’t arguing that words and violence are fine, or that you should tolerate injustice. He’s arguing that the deepest wound often comes from outsourcing your self-conception to the crowd.
The subtext is almost combative: if someone can “insult” you at will, they own a lever inside you. Remove the lever. The quote’s calmness is part of its force; it refuses the drama that insults trade on. In a culture obsessed with being “disrespected” and reacting publicly, Epictetus offers a kind of counterstatus: the person who can’t be baited. It’s not passivity. It’s strategic sovereignty over the one domain Rome can’t confiscate: your judgments.
Quote Details
| Topic | Wisdom |
|---|---|
| Source | Epictetus, Enchiridion (Handbook), section 1 — widely cited source for this maxim in standard English translations. |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Epictetus. (2026, January 18). It is not he who reviles or strikes you who insults you, but your opinion that these things are insulting. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-not-he-who-reviles-or-strikes-you-who-14209/
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Epictetus. "It is not he who reviles or strikes you who insults you, but your opinion that these things are insulting." FixQuotes. January 18, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-not-he-who-reviles-or-strikes-you-who-14209/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"It is not he who reviles or strikes you who insults you, but your opinion that these things are insulting." FixQuotes, 18 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-not-he-who-reviles-or-strikes-you-who-14209/. Accessed 22 Feb. 2026.













