"It is not our differences that divide us. It is our inability to recognize, accept, and celebrate those differences"
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Lorde’s “recognize, accept, and celebrate” is an escalation, not a synonym chain. Recognition is perception with honesty; acceptance is a moral stance; celebration is active investment. She’s outlining the distance between token inclusion and real solidarity, where difference isn’t merely tolerated as a nuisance but treated as a source of knowledge and power. The subtext is pointed: calls for unity often function as pressure to assimilate, especially for those who live at the intersection of racism, sexism, homophobia, and class hierarchy. “We’re all the same” can be a weapon when it erases who pays the cost of that sameness.
Context matters: Lorde wrote as a Black lesbian feminist poet and organizer, suspicious of movements that asked marginalized people to bracket parts of themselves for the sake of a cleaner agenda. The quote reads like an antidote to liberal colorblindness and to feminist spaces that centered whiteness. It’s not a plea for harmony; it’s a demand for competence in difference.
Quote Details
| Topic | Equality |
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| Source | Later attribution: Wisdom for the Soul of Black Folk (Roderick Terry, 2007) modern compilationISBN: 9780977339150 · ID: 07cYGKOEs7UC
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Lorde, Audre. "It is not our differences that divide us. It is our inability to recognize, accept, and celebrate those differences." FixQuotes. Accessed February 3, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-not-our-differences-that-divide-us-it-is-36132/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"It is not our differences that divide us. It is our inability to recognize, accept, and celebrate those differences." FixQuotes, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-not-our-differences-that-divide-us-it-is-36132/. Accessed 3 Feb. 2026.



