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Life & Wisdom Quote by Victor Hugo

"It is often necessary to know how to obey a woman in order sometimes to have the right to command her"

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Power, in Hugo's hands, is never a simple ladder; it is a romance, a battlefield, and a bargain all at once. "It is often necessary to know how to obey a woman in order sometimes to have the right to command her" reads like a gentlemanly maxim, but it’s really a scalpel aimed at the vanity of masculine authority. The line flatters obedience as a skill, not a humiliation, and frames command as something you earn through attention, restraint, and tact rather than something you inherit by gender.

The subtext is transactional and a little dangerous: obey her now so you can lead later. Hugo smuggles domination back in through the side door, yet he also undermines it. If a man must "know how to obey", then a woman is not a passive subject but an agent who sets terms, tests character, and grants or withholds legitimacy. The "right" to command becomes conditional, negotiated, and temporary. That one word, "sometimes", is doing heavy work: command is an exception, not the default setting.

Context matters. Hugo wrote in a 19th-century France where the law and custom largely positioned women as dependents, while the novel and salon culture elevated them as moral arbiters and social strategists. His fiction is full of men undone or remade by women’s judgment. The sentence captures that world’s paradox: patriarchy on paper, female power in practice. It’s not feminism, exactly; it’s Hugo admitting that authority without consent is brittle, and that even in unequal systems, the governed quietly decide who gets to rule.

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Victor Hugo

Victor Hugo (February 26, 1802 - May 22, 1885) was a Author from France.

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