"It is on our failures that we base a new and different and better success"
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Failure, in Havelock Ellis's hands, isn’t a moral blemish or a motivational poster problem. It’s data. The line lands with the cool assurance of someone who spent a career watching Victorian certainties wobble under the pressure of real human behavior. Ellis, a psychologist and early sexologist, worked in a period that treated deviation as degeneracy and “success” as conformity. His quiet provocation is to flip the status system: the very experiences society labels defective are the raw material for the next, smarter version of the self.
The phrasing matters. “Base” is architectural, not emotional. He’s not asking you to feel better about failing; he’s insisting that better outcomes are literally built on it. Then he piles on the adjectives: “new and different and better.” That triple-step suggests iteration rather than redemption. “New” signals breakage from old scripts; “different” implies a willingness to depart from approved paths; “better” is the only nod to conventional improvement, but it arrives after change has already been embraced. The subtext: if your definition of success never changes, you’re not learning, you’re just repeating.
Ellis’s context sharpens the intent. He wrote against a culture enamored with tidy categories of normal/abnormal. This sentence smuggles in a radical psychological ethic: progress comes from confronting the evidence of what didn’t work, including the parts of ourselves we’re trained to hide. Failure becomes not a verdict, but the necessary laboratory for a more honest success.
The phrasing matters. “Base” is architectural, not emotional. He’s not asking you to feel better about failing; he’s insisting that better outcomes are literally built on it. Then he piles on the adjectives: “new and different and better.” That triple-step suggests iteration rather than redemption. “New” signals breakage from old scripts; “different” implies a willingness to depart from approved paths; “better” is the only nod to conventional improvement, but it arrives after change has already been embraced. The subtext: if your definition of success never changes, you’re not learning, you’re just repeating.
Ellis’s context sharpens the intent. He wrote against a culture enamored with tidy categories of normal/abnormal. This sentence smuggles in a radical psychological ethic: progress comes from confronting the evidence of what didn’t work, including the parts of ourselves we’re trained to hide. Failure becomes not a verdict, but the necessary laboratory for a more honest success.
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| Topic | Learning from Mistakes |
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