"It is only the great hearted who can be true friends. The mean and cowardly can never know what true friendship means"
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The phrase “great hearted” is doing heavy work. It suggests generosity, courage, and a willingness to spend yourself on someone else without keeping a ledger. “True friends” implies a category with a counterfeit market: allies of convenience, drinking buddies, respectable acquaintances. Kingsley’s subtext is that friendship demands risk - the risk of loyalty when it costs you, of honesty when it could wound, of steadfastness when self-preservation whispers an exit plan. “Mean” names smallness of spirit; “cowardly” names the refusal to face that risk. In his moral universe, those traits shrink your emotional range until you literally can’t recognize the real thing.
There’s a pastoral edge to the severity. Kingsley isn’t just describing friendship; he’s recruiting you into a code. By making “true friendship” accessible only to the brave and big-hearted, he turns companionship into a form of ethical aspiration - and quietly shames the reader into asking which side of the line they’re on.
Quote Details
| Topic | Friendship |
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| Source | Verified source: David: Five Sermons (Charles Kingsley, 1866)
Evidence: It is only great-hearted men who can be true friends; mean and cowardly men can never know what friendship means. (Sermon V: "Friendship; or, David and Jonathan"). This is the earliest PRIMARY-source placement I could verify online in Kingsley’s own writing. The quote appears verbatim in Sermon V ("Friendship; or, David and Jonathan"), within Kingsley’s collection "David: Five Sermons". The widely-circulated modern wording (“It is only the great hearted who can be true friends. The mean and cowardly can never know what true friendship means”) is a lightly modernized/punctuated paraphrase of this line. I verified the sentence directly in the Project Gutenberg transcription of the book. Independent bibliographic references indicate the collection was published as "David and other Sermons" (1866) in Kingsley’s bibliography list (Encyclopædia Britannica, 9th ed.), supporting 1866 as the publication year for this sermon in book form. Other candidates (1) Daily Thoughts: selected from the writings of Charles Kin... (Charles Kingsley, 2022) compilation90.9% Charles Kingsley Frances Eliza Grenfell Kingsley. A blessed thing it is for any man or woman to have a friend, one ..... |
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Kingsley, Charles. (2026, February 25). It is only the great hearted who can be true friends. The mean and cowardly can never know what true friendship means. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-only-the-great-hearted-who-can-be-true-51028/
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Kingsley, Charles. "It is only the great hearted who can be true friends. The mean and cowardly can never know what true friendship means." FixQuotes. February 25, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-only-the-great-hearted-who-can-be-true-51028/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"It is only the great hearted who can be true friends. The mean and cowardly can never know what true friendship means." FixQuotes, 25 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-only-the-great-hearted-who-can-be-true-51028/. Accessed 27 Mar. 2026.














