"It is true that a fellow cannot ignore women - but he can think of them as he ought - as sisters, not as sparring partners"
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A line like this doesn’t just argue for “respect” toward women; it smuggles in a whole script for how men should manage desire, anxiety, and power. Jim Elliot, writing as a mid-century evangelical clergyman, frames women as unavoidable facts of life - “a fellow cannot ignore” them - then immediately converts that fact into a moralizing discipline of perception. The key verb is “think.” Women aren’t approached as agents to know but as categories to file correctly in the male imagination.
“As sisters” is doing heavy cultural work. It’s a Christian familial metaphor that aims to desexualize and domesticate male-female interaction: the proper relation is protective, bounded, and implicitly chaste. In that sense, it’s less about women’s dignity than about men’s self-control and spiritual safety. The line reassures its audience: you can be around women without being destabilized, as long as you adopt the sanctioned frame.
Then comes the barb: “not as sparring partners.” Elliot isn’t only cautioning against flirtation; he’s warning against contest. The subtext is that argument, debate, or mutual challenge between genders is a kind of impropriety - a masculinized conflict women shouldn’t be invited into, or a temptation men should refuse. It’s a neat rhetorical move: it casts equality as combat and moral maturity as opting out.
Context matters: Elliot’s world prized purity, clear gender roles, and missionary seriousness. The quote reads like pastoral advice, but it also reveals an unease with women as peers - solved by recasting them as kin, safely outside the arena where adults negotiate power.
“As sisters” is doing heavy cultural work. It’s a Christian familial metaphor that aims to desexualize and domesticate male-female interaction: the proper relation is protective, bounded, and implicitly chaste. In that sense, it’s less about women’s dignity than about men’s self-control and spiritual safety. The line reassures its audience: you can be around women without being destabilized, as long as you adopt the sanctioned frame.
Then comes the barb: “not as sparring partners.” Elliot isn’t only cautioning against flirtation; he’s warning against contest. The subtext is that argument, debate, or mutual challenge between genders is a kind of impropriety - a masculinized conflict women shouldn’t be invited into, or a temptation men should refuse. It’s a neat rhetorical move: it casts equality as combat and moral maturity as opting out.
Context matters: Elliot’s world prized purity, clear gender roles, and missionary seriousness. The quote reads like pastoral advice, but it also reveals an unease with women as peers - solved by recasting them as kin, safely outside the arena where adults negotiate power.
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| Topic | Respect |
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