"It is very difficult for girls. They're told to look one way, but to act another way"
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Close’s intent reads less like a rallying cry than a weary diagnosis from someone who has spent a career watching women’s bodies become public property. As an actress, she’s fluent in the gap between appearance and performance, and she applies that double vision to girlhood: you’re cast before you can consent, and the script keeps changing. The subtext is that “difficulty” isn’t incidental. It’s structural. Conflicting instructions are a control mechanism, a rigged game where the house always has a reason to call you wrong.
Context matters: Close comes from an era when Hollywood sold the “strong woman” as a type while policing actual female power off-screen. She’s also known for roles that exposed how quickly women are labeled when they step outside the expected emotional range. The line doesn’t ask for sympathy; it exposes an impossible brief and quietly suggests what liberation might look like: refusing the split, refusing the audition, letting girls be whole people rather than perfectly managed optics.
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Close, Glenn. (2026, January 15). It is very difficult for girls. They're told to look one way, but to act another way. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-very-difficult-for-girls-theyre-told-to-112409/
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Close, Glenn. "It is very difficult for girls. They're told to look one way, but to act another way." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-very-difficult-for-girls-theyre-told-to-112409/.
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"It is very difficult for girls. They're told to look one way, but to act another way." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-very-difficult-for-girls-theyre-told-to-112409/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.





