"It is well that war is so terrible. We should grow too fond of it"
About this Quote
The construction does the work. "It is well" lands with the calm of a man trained to treat catastrophe as weather. Then comes the pivot: "so terrible" isn't just a condemnation, it's a safeguard. Lee implies that only extreme horror keeps war from becoming a hobby for nations and a vocation of vanity for men. The final sentence weaponizes "fond" - a domestic, almost tender word - to expose how easily violence can be romanticized into honor, glory, even pleasure. He knows the feelings officers are rewarded for: adrenaline, comradeship, clarity of purpose, the brutish comfort of a world reduced to winners and losers.
In context, the line also functions as self-justification and self-indictment. Lee, an architect of destruction, gestures toward the paradox of command: the more competent you are at war, the more you risk loving the mastery it grants you. It's a confession that war's propaganda doesn't begin with posters; it starts inside the people best equipped to wage it.
Quote Details
| Topic | War |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Lee, Robert E. (2026, January 15). It is well that war is so terrible. We should grow too fond of it. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-well-that-war-is-so-terrible-we-should-grow-1501/
Chicago Style
Lee, Robert E. "It is well that war is so terrible. We should grow too fond of it." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-well-that-war-is-so-terrible-we-should-grow-1501/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"It is well that war is so terrible. We should grow too fond of it." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-well-that-war-is-so-terrible-we-should-grow-1501/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.







