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Love Quote by Francois de La Rochefoucauld

"It is with true love as it is with ghosts; everyone talks about it, but few have seen it"

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Love, in La Rochefoucauld's hands, is less a sacred force than a social rumor with good PR. Pairing it with ghosts is a deliciously cutting move: both are things people swear they believe in, trade stories about, and use to decorate their identities, yet almost no one can produce credible evidence. The line works because it punctures the romance industry of his era without sounding like a sermon. It’s a salon-ready paradox: smooth on the surface, corrosive underneath.

The intent is not to deny love outright, but to demote it from certainty to hearsay. La Rochefoucauld, the great anatomist of self-interest, is implying that what passes for "true love" is often performance, convenience, vanity, or appetite dressed up in noble language. The ghost comparison also suggests a psychological need: people want love to be real the way they want a haunting to be real, because it gives life narrative charge and moral drama. Belief becomes a kind of participation.

Context matters. Writing in 17th-century French aristocratic culture, he’s observing a world of courtship as strategy, marriage as alliance, reputation as currency. His maxims are engineered to survive that environment: short, lethal, and plausible enough to repeat at dinner. The subtext is a warning about credulity, especially the flattering credulity of thinking one's own feelings are exceptional. If everyone "talks about it", love becomes a language game; if few have "seen it", then the real rarity is not affection but honesty.

Quote Details

TopicSoulmate
SourceFrancois de La Rochefoucauld, Maximes (Maxims), first published 1665; original French: 'Il en est de l'amour véritable comme des apparitions; tout le monde en parle, mais peu l'ont vu.'
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Rochefoucauld, Francois de La. (2026, January 18). It is with true love as it is with ghosts; everyone talks about it, but few have seen it. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-with-true-love-as-it-is-with-ghosts-13094/

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Rochefoucauld, Francois de La. "It is with true love as it is with ghosts; everyone talks about it, but few have seen it." FixQuotes. January 18, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-with-true-love-as-it-is-with-ghosts-13094/.

MLA Style (9th ed.)
"It is with true love as it is with ghosts; everyone talks about it, but few have seen it." FixQuotes, 18 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-is-with-true-love-as-it-is-with-ghosts-13094/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.

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Francois de La Rochefoucauld

Francois de La Rochefoucauld (September 15, 1613 - March 17, 1680) was a Writer from France.

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