"It seems to me self-evident that if you have a life, things happen in it, and certain things do change; certain things end. People you know die"
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The sentence works because it’s built like an argument you can’t wriggle out of: plain diction, basic logic, no metaphysical escape hatch. The repetition of “certain things” has a deadpan, almost bureaucratic shrug to it, as if mortality is a matter of routine administration. That’s the subtext: the most devastating truths are also the least poetic, and the least deniable. By avoiding melodrama, he lets the reader supply their own inventory of endings.
There’s also a quiet rebuke embedded in the simplicity. Not “people die,” but “people you know die.” That second-person intimacy collapses the comforting distance we keep from death as an abstract concept. It’s not statistics; it’s your phone contacts going silent.
In Franzen’s broader fictional world, where families fracture, friendships rot, and time humiliates the stories we tell about ourselves, this reads like an anti-sentimental manifesto. Meaning isn’t granted by permanence; it’s forced on us by impermanence. The line insists on adulthood as acceptance, not optimism: life isn’t what happens despite endings, but through them.
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| Topic | Mortality |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Franzen, Jonathan. (2026, January 17). It seems to me self-evident that if you have a life, things happen in it, and certain things do change; certain things end. People you know die. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-seems-to-me-self-evident-that-if-you-have-a-55191/
Chicago Style
Franzen, Jonathan. "It seems to me self-evident that if you have a life, things happen in it, and certain things do change; certain things end. People you know die." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-seems-to-me-self-evident-that-if-you-have-a-55191/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"It seems to me self-evident that if you have a life, things happen in it, and certain things do change; certain things end. People you know die." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-seems-to-me-self-evident-that-if-you-have-a-55191/. Accessed 6 Feb. 2026.







