"It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are"
About this Quote
The phrase "become who you really are" carries a distinctly Cummings tension between essence and performance. There's a romantic confidence that a "real" self exists, but the surrounding verbs are strenuous: you have to become it, implying the authentic self is not discovered like a lost wallet but built under pressure. The subtext is that the world is constantly offering you a cheaper identity - roles, respectability, cynicism dressed up as realism - and calling that adulthood. Refusing those bargains costs you comfort, belonging, sometimes even love.
Context matters: Cummings wrote in a modernist era allergic to Victorian propriety and scarred by mechanized war. His poetry made a career out of resisting the standardized voice - shattered syntax, playful typography, the insistence that feeling can be an argument. This line reads like that project distilled into self-help form, but with teeth. It suggests the bravest thing you can do isn't to harden; it's to stay weird on purpose.
Quote Details
| Topic | Self-Improvement |
|---|---|
| Source | Later attribution: Inspirations for Today (Dorothea Erdmuth Lotze-Kola, 2018) modern compilationISBN: 9781532054013 · ID: j_5wDwAAQBAJ
Evidence:
... It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are. —E. E. Cummings Meditation: Since I turned fifty, I have found a new sense of just being who I really am. I no longer want to please or adapt or worry about what others might ... |
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"It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are." FixQuotes, 17 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-takes-courage-to-grow-up-and-become-who-you-13963/. Accessed 21 Feb. 2026.











