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Time & Perspective Quote by Sally Field

"It took me a long time not to judge myself through someone else's eyes"

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The line lands like a quiet aftershock of fame: not the obvious confession that Hollywood is hard, but the deeper admission that applause can colonize your inner life. Sally Field frames self-judgment as something outsourced, a borrowed measuring stick held up by “someone else’s eyes.” That phrasing matters. It doesn’t just evoke criticism; it evokes surveillance. The gaze isn’t one person’s opinion so much as a rotating panel of expectations - directors, casting agents, critics, audiences, even the cultural script for what a woman in entertainment is allowed to be at different ages.

Field’s intent reads less like self-help and more like a hard-won boundary. “It took me a long time” signals time served: years of learning that external validation, even when it’s positive, still keeps you trapped in the same courtroom. The subtext is that performance bleeds into personhood. When your job is to be watched, you start watching yourself watching yourself, calibrating every flaw to an imagined reaction. That recursive loop is the real prison she’s naming.

Contextually, it resonates with Field’s career arc - early adoration, serious acclaim, and the public scrutiny that trails actresses as they age. The quote refuses the neat myth of confidence arriving as a single epiphany. Instead, it casts self-acceptance as a slow disengagement from the gaze: not becoming invulnerable to others’ opinions, but no longer letting them author the verdict.

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APA Style (7th ed.)
Field, Sally. (2026, January 15). It took me a long time not to judge myself through someone else's eyes. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-took-me-a-long-time-not-to-judge-myself-157189/

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Field, Sally. "It took me a long time not to judge myself through someone else's eyes." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-took-me-a-long-time-not-to-judge-myself-157189/.

MLA Style (9th ed.)
"It took me a long time not to judge myself through someone else's eyes." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-took-me-a-long-time-not-to-judge-myself-157189/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.

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Sally Field (born November 6, 1946) is a Actress from USA.

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