"It was always me and the other guy. I came in second for a long time"
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The subtext is less self-pity than exhaustion with a system that turns art into a series of micro-elections. Acting, especially for working character actors, is built on auditions where you can be excellent and still be “wrong” for reasons that have nothing to do with skill: height next to a co-star, a casting director’s hunch, a network’s demographic mood. “Second for a long time” captures the specific purgatory of being consistently close. It’s not failure that breaks you; it’s repeated almosts. That repetition suggests a career shaped by proximity to the prize, close enough to taste it, far enough to never stop chasing.
Coming from an actor, the line also reads as a critique of Hollywood’s mythology of inevitability. We’re sold talent as destiny, but Gretsch points to contingency. His honesty is disarming because it punctures the glamorous narrative and replaces it with something more relatable: the professional life where you’re competent, persistent, often admired, and still frequently not chosen. That’s the cultural moment it taps into: merit is real, but selection is messier.
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| Topic | Heartbreak |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Gretsch, Joel. (2026, January 16). It was always me and the other guy. I came in second for a long time. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-was-always-me-and-the-other-guy-i-came-in-122926/
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Gretsch, Joel. "It was always me and the other guy. I came in second for a long time." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-was-always-me-and-the-other-guy-i-came-in-122926/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"It was always me and the other guy. I came in second for a long time." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-was-always-me-and-the-other-guy-i-came-in-122926/. Accessed 8 Feb. 2026.






