"It was so draining. Going to parties to rub elbows with so-and-so and act like it's no big deal, when really all I was doing was hoping I'd have the success they had"
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The subtext is a quiet admission of scarcity in a place marketed as abundance. "Rubbing elbows" sounds like access, but she frames it as depletion, a kind of emotional cardio where the prize is proximity, not friendship. The name-dropped "so-and-so" is deliberately generic, turning individual stars into interchangeable status objects. That choice matters: it suggests she wasn’t starstruck by a person; she was starstruck by what their success represented, a future she could almost touch but not claim.
Contextually, this lands as a corrective to the myth of pop stardom as pure confidence. Perry, a figure often coded as glossy and high-voltage, reveals the anxious apprenticeship behind the persona: attending rooms where everyone is both audience and competitor, where networking is indistinguishable from longing. There’s also a subtle indictment of the industry’s social rituals, which reward those who can cosplay detachment while privately bargaining with envy. The candor works because it’s unsentimental. She doesn’t romanticize hustle; she calls it what it felt like: draining.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Perry, Katy. (2026, January 15). It was so draining. Going to parties to rub elbows with so-and-so and act like it's no big deal, when really all I was doing was hoping I'd have the success they had. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-was-so-draining-going-to-parties-to-rub-elbows-150572/
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Perry, Katy. "It was so draining. Going to parties to rub elbows with so-and-so and act like it's no big deal, when really all I was doing was hoping I'd have the success they had." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-was-so-draining-going-to-parties-to-rub-elbows-150572/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"It was so draining. Going to parties to rub elbows with so-and-so and act like it's no big deal, when really all I was doing was hoping I'd have the success they had." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/it-was-so-draining-going-to-parties-to-rub-elbows-150572/. Accessed 18 Feb. 2026.




