"It's a life's journey of finding ourselves, finding our power, and living for yourself, not for everyone else"
About this Quote
The quote’s engine is its three-step rhythm: finding ourselves, finding our power, then living for yourself. “Finding” gets repeated because identity and power aren’t framed as possessions you’re born with; they’re recoveries. That’s a subtle nod to how agency gets eroded - by abuse, by expectations, by the role you’re assigned in a family or a workplace. Power here isn’t domination; it’s permission. The line implies that the hardest part isn’t knowing what you want, it’s believing you’re allowed to want it.
The closing contrast - “for yourself, not for everyone else” - is the real bite. It pushes back against the cultural halo we put on self-sacrifice, especially for women in public-facing jobs where likability is currency and backlash is guaranteed. Hargitay’s intent feels less like individualism-as-brand and more like boundary-setting as ethics: you can be compassionate without being consumed. In an era of performative everything, she’s arguing for a private center of gravity.
Quote Details
| Topic | Self-Love |
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| Source | Help us find the source |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Hargitay, Mariska. (2026, January 16). It's a life's journey of finding ourselves, finding our power, and living for yourself, not for everyone else. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/its-a-lifes-journey-of-finding-ourselves-finding-115092/
Chicago Style
Hargitay, Mariska. "It's a life's journey of finding ourselves, finding our power, and living for yourself, not for everyone else." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/its-a-lifes-journey-of-finding-ourselves-finding-115092/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"It's a life's journey of finding ourselves, finding our power, and living for yourself, not for everyone else." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/its-a-lifes-journey-of-finding-ourselves-finding-115092/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.









