"It's challenging to find an identity as a young person if you don't have the sustenance of love, because you're being shipped around"
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The phrase “being shipped around” does sharp work. It’s blunt, almost industrial, borrowing the language of cargo and commerce. A kid becomes an item in transit, handled and rerouted by systems (family fracture, foster care, poverty, addiction, institutional neglect) that treat continuity as optional. Blige isn’t romanticizing trauma or asking for pity; she’s naming what happens when your life is governed by other people’s schedules and crises. You can’t “find yourself” when you’re never allowed to stay put long enough to build a self.
Context matters because Blige’s career has always braided grit with emotional precision. Her music built a vernacular for pain that still insists on dignity. That’s the subtext here: identity is not just self-expression, it’s security. We like stories where young people “overcome” chaotic beginnings through sheer will. Blige refuses that easy mythology. She points to the foundational input: consistent love as infrastructure. Without it, the search for identity becomes a scavenger hunt you’re forced to run while someone else keeps moving the map.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Blige, Mary J. (2026, January 17). It's challenging to find an identity as a young person if you don't have the sustenance of love, because you're being shipped around. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/its-challenging-to-find-an-identity-as-a-young-79978/
Chicago Style
Blige, Mary J. "It's challenging to find an identity as a young person if you don't have the sustenance of love, because you're being shipped around." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/its-challenging-to-find-an-identity-as-a-young-79978/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"It's challenging to find an identity as a young person if you don't have the sustenance of love, because you're being shipped around." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/its-challenging-to-find-an-identity-as-a-young-79978/. Accessed 7 Feb. 2026.





