"It's heartbreaking but we're trying to get over it. As disappointed as we were, I think that somehow you have to find a way to think that it happened for a reason"
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Then comes the pivot our culture practically demands: disappointment must be converted into meaning. “As disappointed as we were” acknowledges the gap between expectation and reality; it’s the language of someone who had a stake in an outcome and is now negotiating the aftermath. The phrase “somehow you have to find a way” is the tell. It’s not certainty. It’s necessity. She’s describing meaning-making as a coping strategy, not a revelation.
“It happened for a reason” is the most loaded line because it’s both comfort and self-defense. It borrows the shape of faith without requiring faith, a secular mantra that keeps pain from feeling random and therefore unbearable. The subtext is gentle but pragmatic: we may never know the reason, but we need a story that lets us keep functioning. In an entertainment context, it also reads like reputational triage - acknowledging hurt while signaling resilience, professionalism, and forward motion. The sentence doesn’t solve grief; it gives it a script.
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| Topic | Heartbreak |
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| Source | Help us find the source |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Dhavernas, Caroline. (2026, January 15). It's heartbreaking but we're trying to get over it. As disappointed as we were, I think that somehow you have to find a way to think that it happened for a reason. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/its-heartbreaking-but-were-trying-to-get-over-it-140052/
Chicago Style
Dhavernas, Caroline. "It's heartbreaking but we're trying to get over it. As disappointed as we were, I think that somehow you have to find a way to think that it happened for a reason." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/its-heartbreaking-but-were-trying-to-get-over-it-140052/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"It's heartbreaking but we're trying to get over it. As disappointed as we were, I think that somehow you have to find a way to think that it happened for a reason." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/its-heartbreaking-but-were-trying-to-get-over-it-140052/. Accessed 13 Feb. 2026.




