Love & Passion Quote by Doris Lilly

Intoxication is doing the heavy lifting here: Doris Lilly frames male desire less as romance than as a chemical dependency engineered by service. The line isn’t coy; it’s transactional with a wink, a piece of newsroom-sharp social observation dressed up as bedroom advice. By choosing “waited on,” she invokes the whole apparatus of domestic labor and status performance: meals appearing, shirts ironed, logistics handled, ego soothed. Sex, in her formulation, isn’t a separate sphere of intimacy but the premium add-on to a lifestyle of being catered to.

The subtext is blunt about power. “For a man” narrows the target to a culturally trained expectation that caretaking is someone else’s job. “Intoxicating” implies not just pleasure but impaired judgment: once you’ve had the drug, you’ll chase the dealer. And “very, very skillful” turns sex into expertise, a craft measured by results. The trailing “and that will get them” is the most revealing part - it dodges the object on purpose. Get them to commit? Stay? Pay? Behave? The ambiguity is a tell: Lilly understands relationships as negotiations where leverage matters, and she’s naming the levers without pretending it’s pretty.

As a journalist-turned-advice-world provocateur, Lilly wrote in a cultural moment when women were encouraged to manage men as projects while having limited structural power. Her candor reads today as both savvy and unsettling: an x-ray of gendered entitlement, and a survival guide that risks reinforcing the very dynamic it exposes.