"It's natural to want your kids to have all the things you didn't have"
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The subtext is trickier: the desire isn’t really about “things.” It’s about rewriting an origin story. Parents don’t just want their kids to own what they lacked; they want them to skip the humiliation, the uncertainty, the hunger-for-approval that scarcity breeds. “All the things” becomes a euphemism for safety, choice, and social ease. That’s why the quote feels tender and slightly defensive at once. It anticipates the accusation that you’re spoiling your kids, trying to buy love, or projecting your old wounds onto someone else’s life.
The context matters: Ladd came up through Hollywood’s studio era, a machine that sold aspiration as entertainment while demanding personal sacrifice behind the curtain. Mid-century America was also steeped in postwar consumer optimism, where better parenting could look suspiciously like better purchasing. Ladd’s phrasing sits right on that fault line - acknowledging the emotional logic of upward mobility while hinting at its trap: if you only hand your kids “things,” you may still be passing down the hunger you thought you’d escaped.
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| Topic | Parenting |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Ladd, Alan. (2026, January 15). It's natural to want your kids to have all the things you didn't have. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/its-natural-to-want-your-kids-to-have-all-the-144693/
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Ladd, Alan. "It's natural to want your kids to have all the things you didn't have." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/its-natural-to-want-your-kids-to-have-all-the-144693/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"It's natural to want your kids to have all the things you didn't have." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/its-natural-to-want-your-kids-to-have-all-the-144693/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.





