"It's not a good thing to be friends with people you're covering. There's just no point in doing it. It's tempting, but they're not going to consider you their friend anyway. They just know that you're somebody that can do something for them"
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The subtext is colder: friendship, in the coverage economy, is asymmetrical. The subject has leverage you want (quotes, invitations, the aura of being in the room). You have leverage they want (visibility, framing, legitimacy). Loder’s insight is that the relationship will always snap back to that power equation, no matter how many drinks you share. “They’re not going to consider you their friend anyway” isn’t self-pity; it’s a reminder that the subject’s incentives are managed by publicists, branding concerns, and career survival. The reporter is a tool in that machine.
Context matters here: Loder came up through rock journalism into the MTV era, where media wasn’t just documenting fame but manufacturing it in real time. In that world, “tempting” means more than ego. Friendship offers protection from confrontation; it lets a journalist feel kind while quietly surrendering editorial independence. Loder’s point is bracingly pragmatic: once you accept the role of useful intermediary, you’re less likely to ask the question that makes the room go quiet. That’s when coverage becomes promotion, and nobody has to explicitly say so.
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| Topic | Fake Friends |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Loder, Kurt. (2026, January 15). It's not a good thing to be friends with people you're covering. There's just no point in doing it. It's tempting, but they're not going to consider you their friend anyway. They just know that you're somebody that can do something for them. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/its-not-a-good-thing-to-be-friends-with-people-161167/
Chicago Style
Loder, Kurt. "It's not a good thing to be friends with people you're covering. There's just no point in doing it. It's tempting, but they're not going to consider you their friend anyway. They just know that you're somebody that can do something for them." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/its-not-a-good-thing-to-be-friends-with-people-161167/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"It's not a good thing to be friends with people you're covering. There's just no point in doing it. It's tempting, but they're not going to consider you their friend anyway. They just know that you're somebody that can do something for them." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/its-not-a-good-thing-to-be-friends-with-people-161167/. Accessed 22 Feb. 2026.







