"I've been told by people that it's okay to cry but, you know what, it's been used against me"
About this Quote
Coming from Peter Steele, the remark lands in a culture that treated male sadness as both taboo and entertainment. Steele’s whole public persona played with extremes: imposing physical presence, gothic melodrama, deadpan humor, and a voice that could sound like confession and parody in the same breath. That tension is the subtext here. He isn’t rejecting emotional openness; he’s indicting the audience - friends, partners, media, even fans - who claim to want honesty but keep a mental ledger of every exposed nerve.
The intent feels defensive, but not closed off. It’s a warning delivered like a weary joke: vulnerability is real, and so is the social tax on it. In the rock/metal ecosystem Steele inhabited, confession can boost authenticity while also becoming ammunition for ridicule, moral judgment, or gossip. The quote captures that trap in one sentence: the moment you cry, you stop being a person and start being a story other people tell about you.
Quote Details
| Topic | Betrayal |
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| Source | Help us find the source |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Steele, Peter. (2026, January 17). I've been told by people that it's okay to cry but, you know what, it's been used against me. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/ive-been-told-by-people-that-its-okay-to-cry-but-75001/
Chicago Style
Steele, Peter. "I've been told by people that it's okay to cry but, you know what, it's been used against me." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/ive-been-told-by-people-that-its-okay-to-cry-but-75001/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I've been told by people that it's okay to cry but, you know what, it's been used against me." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/ive-been-told-by-people-that-its-okay-to-cry-but-75001/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.






