"I've had so many interviews where the last question is, Are you gay? I had to find very creative ways to say that I was gay, but that I wasn't going to talk about it"
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Her phrasing exposes the trap. "Very creative ways" reads like a comedian’s setup, but it’s also the language of survival. Creativity here isn’t self-expression; it’s evasive maneuvering, coded speech, the PR art of telling the truth without giving anyone something they can package. She’s describing a double bind that defined Hollywood for years: be authentic enough to seem honest, but not so explicit that you become "an issue" or a headline that eclipses the work.
The sharpest turn is the sentence’s internal contradiction: "I was gay, but... wasn't going to talk about it". That "but" is the boundary line she’s forced to draw in public, a way of reclaiming control in a space designed to take it. It’s not shame so much as self-defense against an industry that treats identity as content. De Rossi’s intent is to make the audience notice the coercion hiding inside "just a question."
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Rossi, Portia de. (2026, January 16). I've had so many interviews where the last question is, Are you gay? I had to find very creative ways to say that I was gay, but that I wasn't going to talk about it. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/ive-had-so-many-interviews-where-the-last-83100/
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Rossi, Portia de. "I've had so many interviews where the last question is, Are you gay? I had to find very creative ways to say that I was gay, but that I wasn't going to talk about it." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/ive-had-so-many-interviews-where-the-last-83100/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I've had so many interviews where the last question is, Are you gay? I had to find very creative ways to say that I was gay, but that I wasn't going to talk about it." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/ive-had-so-many-interviews-where-the-last-83100/. Accessed 6 Feb. 2026.






