"I've known for years that you're supposed to be present. I know that thinking about what's happened or thinking about what I want is not going to get me anywhere, but until I quit doing it I'm not present"
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The subtext is a quiet revolt against performative serenity. "You're supposed to be present" reads like an instruction handed down by therapists, yoga teachers, self-help books, and well-meaning friends - a moral standard disguised as advice. She hears it as an obligation, not a liberation, which is why the admission lands with a slight sting of shame. The honesty is in the second half: presence isn't a switch you flip, it's a behavior you practice while failing at it.
Context matters with Hemingway: the famous surname, the public-facing life, and the long American tradition of turning private struggle into a narrative others can consume. Her sentence refuses the polished arc. It captures a moment before transformation, when self-awareness is real but not yet useful. That makes it work: instead of offering inspiration, it offers recognition - and in a culture addicted to optimization, recognition can be the more radical gift.
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| Topic | Live in the Moment |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Hemingway, Mariel. (n.d.). I've known for years that you're supposed to be present. I know that thinking about what's happened or thinking about what I want is not going to get me anywhere, but until I quit doing it I'm not present. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/ive-known-for-years-that-youre-supposed-to-be-155511/
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Hemingway, Mariel. "I've known for years that you're supposed to be present. I know that thinking about what's happened or thinking about what I want is not going to get me anywhere, but until I quit doing it I'm not present." FixQuotes. Accessed February 1, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/ive-known-for-years-that-youre-supposed-to-be-155511/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I've known for years that you're supposed to be present. I know that thinking about what's happened or thinking about what I want is not going to get me anywhere, but until I quit doing it I'm not present." FixQuotes, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/ive-known-for-years-that-youre-supposed-to-be-155511/. Accessed 1 Feb. 2026.




