"I've learned that if you don't ask for what you want, you're not going to get it"
About this Quote
The intent is practical, almost bluntly transactional. “Ask” here isn’t just about ambition; it’s about negotiation, boundaries, and self-advocacy. The subtext is that passivity gets misread as consent: to underpayment, to invisibility, to a life shaped by default settings. The quote’s power is its refusal to romanticize quiet suffering as humility. It’s a small sentence that calls out a big cultural habit: treating desire like something you should downplay so you won’t seem difficult.
Context matters, too. Meester’s career is tied to a particular era of celebrity-making, when young women were expected to be agreeable in public while navigating intense scrutiny in private. Read against that backdrop, the line feels like a corrective to “good girl” training. It’s not saying you’ll always get what you ask for. It’s saying you forfeit your only leverage when you don’t even try.
Quote Details
| Topic | Motivational |
|---|---|
| Source | Interview with Seventeen magazine (approx. 2009), advice on going after what you want |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Meester, Leighton. (2026, February 14). I've learned that if you don't ask for what you want, you're not going to get it. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/ive-learned-that-if-you-dont-ask-for-what-you-185330/
Chicago Style
Meester, Leighton. "I've learned that if you don't ask for what you want, you're not going to get it." FixQuotes. February 14, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/ive-learned-that-if-you-dont-ask-for-what-you-185330/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I've learned that if you don't ask for what you want, you're not going to get it." FixQuotes, 14 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/ive-learned-that-if-you-dont-ask-for-what-you-185330/. Accessed 16 Feb. 2026.












