"I've learned the hard lesson that you can't pin your heart on anything until it's a completely done deal"
About this Quote
The blunt qualifier "until it's a completely done deal" does the real work. Not "likely", not "basically confirmed" - completely. That insistence reads as a survival tactic learned from cancellations, recastings, shifting schedules, and the peculiar cruelty of being told you're "perfect" right up until someone else is picked. The line is less about cynicism than about self-preservation: a method for keeping your emotional life from being held hostage by other people's timelines.
Subtext: he’s talking about work, but he’s also talking about intimacy and identity. When your sense of worth is repeatedly put up for review, attachment becomes risky. The intent is to warn without sermonizing: protect your softness by delaying devotion. It’s a hard lesson because it costs something - it trades the sweetness of anticipation for the steadiness of not being shattered by the next "we'll let you know."
Quote Details
| Topic | Heartbreak |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Kempe, William. (2026, January 15). I've learned the hard lesson that you can't pin your heart on anything until it's a completely done deal. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/ive-learned-the-hard-lesson-that-you-cant-pin-116643/
Chicago Style
Kempe, William. "I've learned the hard lesson that you can't pin your heart on anything until it's a completely done deal." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/ive-learned-the-hard-lesson-that-you-cant-pin-116643/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I've learned the hard lesson that you can't pin your heart on anything until it's a completely done deal." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/ive-learned-the-hard-lesson-that-you-cant-pin-116643/. Accessed 13 Feb. 2026.






