"I've learned to try to sustain myself by holding on to the integrity of who I am. I'm not talking big diva. I'm quiet. I'm shy. And I became stronger when I stopped trying to be the person they wanted me to be"
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The subtext is a quiet indictment of the diva narrative as a trap. “I’m not talking big diva” isn’t a diss of confidence; it’s a refusal of the caricature women in music get sorted into: either demanding and difficult or grateful and pliable. By naming herself “quiet” and “shy,” Waters insists those traits can coexist with authority. That’s the sly power move here: she doesn’t ask permission to be introverted; she frames it as a legitimate center of gravity.
Context matters. Waters came up in an era when dance music and club hits could make you famous while still leaving you precarious - celebrated on the charts, underestimated in the room. Her phrasing suggests hard-won clarity after years of being “they-ed” by tastemakers: the vague committee of managers, labels, media, even fans. The real punch is the last clause: strength arrived not through adding armor, but through subtraction. She became stronger when she stopped performing someone else’s idea of strength. That’s not branding; that’s boundaries.
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| Topic | Honesty & Integrity |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Waters, Crystal. (2026, January 15). I've learned to try to sustain myself by holding on to the integrity of who I am. I'm not talking big diva. I'm quiet. I'm shy. And I became stronger when I stopped trying to be the person they wanted me to be. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/ive-learned-to-try-to-sustain-myself-by-holding-168830/
Chicago Style
Waters, Crystal. "I've learned to try to sustain myself by holding on to the integrity of who I am. I'm not talking big diva. I'm quiet. I'm shy. And I became stronger when I stopped trying to be the person they wanted me to be." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/ive-learned-to-try-to-sustain-myself-by-holding-168830/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I've learned to try to sustain myself by holding on to the integrity of who I am. I'm not talking big diva. I'm quiet. I'm shy. And I became stronger when I stopped trying to be the person they wanted me to be." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/ive-learned-to-try-to-sustain-myself-by-holding-168830/. Accessed 15 Feb. 2026.










