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Time & Perspective Quote by Jeremy Northam

"I've never had a huge circle of friends. I can't spread myself that thin and go 100 million miles an hour all the time. I choose to give truly of myself, entirely of myself, to the people I choose to do that with, and I can't do that with everyone"

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There is a quiet rebuke in Northam's refusal to audition for the role modern life keeps casting: the endlessly available, socially omnivorous person who can maintain intimacy at scale. Coming from an actor, the line lands with extra bite. Performance is his job; the suggestion is that constant social expansion turns the rest of life into performance too. "100 million miles an hour" isn’t just speed, it’s a caricature of the busy-person ethos - movement as status, motion as proof you matter.

The intent reads as boundary-setting without apology. Northam frames friendship as a finite resource, not a collectible. The repeated emphasis on "truly" and "entirely" signals a standard that’s almost devotional: if he’s in, he’s all in. That absolutism does two things at once. It elevates the chosen few (you’re worth the full version of me) and disqualifies the casual acquaintance model (no partial subscriptions, no low-grade intimacy). The subtext is that spreading yourself thin doesn’t make you generous; it makes you diluted.

Culturally, it’s an antidote to the networking era where "circle" becomes a brand metric and social bandwidth is mistaken for character. Northam’s phrasing also sidesteps the usual celebrity script about being "private". He isn’t hiding; he’s prioritizing. The implicit challenge is uncomfortable: if your friendships require you to sprint, maybe the problem isn’t time management. It’s the belief that connection should be infinite.

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Jeremy Northam (born December 1, 1961) is a Actor from England.

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