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Motivation Quote by Reggie White

"I've often had people ask me, would you allow a homosexual to be your friend. Yes, I will. And the reason I will is because I know that that person has problems, and if I can minister to those problems, I will"

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Reggie White’s line lands like a handshake that turns, mid-grip, into a sermon. On its face, he’s answering a culture-war “gotcha” question with apparent openness: yes, a gay person can be his friend. But the generosity is conditional, and that’s where the real work of the quote happens. Friendship isn’t offered as mutual recognition; it’s framed as a kind of outreach project. “Allow” positions White as gatekeeper, the one who grants access. “Problems” quietly recasts homosexuality from identity to pathology. “Minister” clinches it: the relationship he imagines is pastoral, hierarchical, corrective.

That rhetorical move is vintage late-20th-century American respectability politics around sexuality: tolerance as long as it comes with the promise of change. It’s an older bargain that sounds compassionate in the speaker’s moral vocabulary while still marking the other person as broken. The phrasing also protects White from charges of hate. He can claim love, even friendship, while keeping the doctrinal line intact. It’s not “I accept you,” it’s “I’ll be near you so I can fix you.”

Context matters because White wasn’t just an NFL icon; he was publicly devout, part of an era when prominent athletes often served as cultural pastors for mainstream audiences. The quote reveals how “love the sinner” rhetoric functions socially: it offers proximity without equality, kindness without affirmation. It’s a reminder that inclusion can be packaged as benevolence while still enforcing a moral pecking order.

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APA Style (7th ed.)
White, Reggie. (2026, January 16). I've often had people ask me, would you allow a homosexual to be your friend. Yes, I will. And the reason I will is because I know that that person has problems, and if I can minister to those problems, I will. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/ive-often-had-people-ask-me-would-you-allow-a-120766/

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White, Reggie. "I've often had people ask me, would you allow a homosexual to be your friend. Yes, I will. And the reason I will is because I know that that person has problems, and if I can minister to those problems, I will." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/ive-often-had-people-ask-me-would-you-allow-a-120766/.

MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I've often had people ask me, would you allow a homosexual to be your friend. Yes, I will. And the reason I will is because I know that that person has problems, and if I can minister to those problems, I will." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/ive-often-had-people-ask-me-would-you-allow-a-120766/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.

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Reggie White (December 19, 1961 - December 26, 2004) was a Athlete from USA.

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