"I've struggled so hard to reign in my temper because it actually terrifies me"
About this Quote
The phrasing “reign in” (not “rein in,” though the slip is common) is telling: she imagines anger as something that wants to rule. That’s a performer’s insight, too. Actors traffic in controlled intensity; York is describing what happens when the intensity stops being craft and starts being compulsion. “I’ve struggled so hard” doesn’t glamorize the work of self-control as self-improvement; it marks it as survival, a private discipline that never quite ends.
Context matters: York came up in an era that rewarded women for poise and punished them for volatility, while quietly tolerating male rage as genius or authority. Her admission carries the double bind: manage it or be labeled “difficult,” fail to manage it and fear your own capacity to hurt people you love. The subtext is accountability without melodrama - an adult recognition that anger can be both justified and dangerous, and that the scariest part is how familiar it feels.
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| Topic | Anger |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
York, Susannah. (2026, January 16). I've struggled so hard to reign in my temper because it actually terrifies me. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/ive-struggled-so-hard-to-reign-in-my-temper-117325/
Chicago Style
York, Susannah. "I've struggled so hard to reign in my temper because it actually terrifies me." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/ive-struggled-so-hard-to-reign-in-my-temper-117325/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"I've struggled so hard to reign in my temper because it actually terrifies me." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/ive-struggled-so-hard-to-reign-in-my-temper-117325/. Accessed 18 Feb. 2026.




