"Jealousy is all the fun you think they had"
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The knife twist is in “all the fun.” Jong reduces jealousy to pure projection: not evidence, not intimacy, not even accurate imagination, just the pleasure you assume is happening offstage. That assumption is the real addiction. Jealousy becomes a way to keep desire alive without risk, to stay adjacent to erotic possibility while avoiding the mess of asking, negotiating, or leaving. It’s fantasy with a punitive edge.
Context matters: Jong came of age in a moment when women’s sexual lives were being dragged out of private shame and into public argument. In that world, jealousy often disguises itself as morality, and “fun” becomes a loaded word - who gets to have it, who gets punished for it, who is expected to be grateful for less. Jong’s line punctures the romance of surveillance. It suggests jealousy is less a sign you care than a sign you’ve outsourced your self-worth to someone else’s imagined nightlife.
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Jong, Erica. (2026, January 17). Jealousy is all the fun you think they had. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/jealousy-is-all-the-fun-you-think-they-had-52932/
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Jong, Erica. "Jealousy is all the fun you think they had." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/jealousy-is-all-the-fun-you-think-they-had-52932/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Jealousy is all the fun you think they had." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/jealousy-is-all-the-fun-you-think-they-had-52932/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.





