"Kindly words do not enter so deeply into men as a reputation for kindness"
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The subtext is reputational psychology. People don’t “take in” isolated niceties because they’re ambiguous; we discount them as situational, transactional, even manipulative. A “reputation for kindness,” by contrast, arrives pre-verified. It’s the accumulated proof of repeated action, witnessed over time, transmitted through community memory. In a world of courts, clans, and bureaucratic hierarchies, that social proof isn’t just moral capital; it’s political technology. It lubricates trust, lowers suspicion, and makes advice or correction easier to accept because it’s heard through the filter of presumed benevolence.
Context matters: Mencius argued that humane governance begins with ren (humaneness) embodied, not merely proclaimed. This aphorism works because it reframes persuasion as an ethics problem. If you want your words to “enter deeply,” you can’t hack the moment with soft language; you have to build the long game of credibility. It’s a critique of performative virtue centuries before we had a phrase for it.
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| Topic | Kindness |
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"Kindly words do not enter so deeply into men as a reputation for kindness." FixQuotes, 14 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/kindly-words-do-not-enter-so-deeply-into-men-as-a-159/. Accessed 11 Feb. 2026.














