"Kindness and politeness are not overrated at all. They're underused"
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Tommy Lee Jones isn’t offering a Hallmark slogan here; he’s issuing a gruff corrective to a culture that mistakes abrasion for authenticity. Coming from an actor whose screen persona often runs on impatience, bluntness, and tightly rationed warmth, the line lands with a kind of earned authority: if even the guy who plays the weary realist is telling you to mind your manners, maybe the problem isn’t “people are too sensitive” but that we’ve normalized unnecessary roughness.
The intent is deceptively practical. “Not overrated” answers a familiar eye-roll: the idea that kindness is naive and politeness is fake. Jones flips the frame from moralizing to supply and demand. The problem isn’t that these virtues have been oversold; it’s that they’re scarce in daily circulation. “Underused” is the key word: it treats decency like a tool we’ve stopped reaching for, not a lofty ideal we can’t live up to.
The subtext has bite. Kindness isn’t framed as weakness; it’s framed as competence. Politeness isn’t spin; it’s social infrastructure - the low-cost lubricant that keeps strangers, coworkers, and families from grinding each other down. In a moment shaped by online performative bluntness and real-world burnout, Jones’ sentence reads like an older, tired kind of wisdom: you don’t need a grand reinvention of society. You need to stop making every interaction a small war.
The intent is deceptively practical. “Not overrated” answers a familiar eye-roll: the idea that kindness is naive and politeness is fake. Jones flips the frame from moralizing to supply and demand. The problem isn’t that these virtues have been oversold; it’s that they’re scarce in daily circulation. “Underused” is the key word: it treats decency like a tool we’ve stopped reaching for, not a lofty ideal we can’t live up to.
The subtext has bite. Kindness isn’t framed as weakness; it’s framed as competence. Politeness isn’t spin; it’s social infrastructure - the low-cost lubricant that keeps strangers, coworkers, and families from grinding each other down. In a moment shaped by online performative bluntness and real-world burnout, Jones’ sentence reads like an older, tired kind of wisdom: you don’t need a grand reinvention of society. You need to stop making every interaction a small war.
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| Topic | Kindness |
|---|---|
| Source | Help us find the source |
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