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"Kiss me out of desire, but not consolation"

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A kiss can be an act of worship or a bandage, and Buckley draws the line with surgical tenderness. “Kiss me out of desire, but not consolation” doesn’t reject comfort; it rejects the kind of comfort that quietly demotes you. Consolation implies aftermath: you kiss someone because they’re hurt, because you feel guilty, because you need to soften a no. Desire, by contrast, is present-tense and risky. It says: I want you, not just to make this moment less awkward.

Buckley’s phrasing is doing emotional boundary-setting without sounding armored. The plea is intimate, but it’s also a demand for honesty. He’s essentially asking not to be turned into a project, not to be kissed the way you pet a dog you’re about to give away. That “but” is the hinge: it admits how easily affection can become pity and how humiliating that swap can feel when you’re the one being “helped.”

The line also tracks with Buckley’s broader artistic persona: a vocalist celebrated for sounding both exposed and in control, someone who could make longing feel like a physical environment. In the 1990s alt-rock ecosystem, sincerity was often smuggled in under irony; Buckley does the opposite. He refuses the safe version of intimacy. A consolation kiss is low-stakes and morally flattering to the giver. A desire kiss is messier, accountable, and mutual. That’s what he’s asking for: not kindness, but truth.

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TopicRomantic
SourceLyric line from "Lover, You Should've Come Over" by Jeff Buckley; track on the album Grace (Columbia, 1994).
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Buckley, Jeff. (2026, January 17). Kiss me out of desire, but not consolation. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/kiss-me-out-of-desire-but-not-consolation-63584/

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Buckley, Jeff. "Kiss me out of desire, but not consolation." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/kiss-me-out-of-desire-but-not-consolation-63584/.

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"Kiss me out of desire, but not consolation." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/kiss-me-out-of-desire-but-not-consolation-63584/. Accessed 7 Feb. 2026.

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Jeff Buckley

Jeff Buckley (November 17, 1966 - May 29, 1997) was a Musician from USA.

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