"Kiss me out of desire, but not consolation"
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Buckley’s phrasing is doing emotional boundary-setting without sounding armored. The plea is intimate, but it’s also a demand for honesty. He’s essentially asking not to be turned into a project, not to be kissed the way you pet a dog you’re about to give away. That “but” is the hinge: it admits how easily affection can become pity and how humiliating that swap can feel when you’re the one being “helped.”
The line also tracks with Buckley’s broader artistic persona: a vocalist celebrated for sounding both exposed and in control, someone who could make longing feel like a physical environment. In the 1990s alt-rock ecosystem, sincerity was often smuggled in under irony; Buckley does the opposite. He refuses the safe version of intimacy. A consolation kiss is low-stakes and morally flattering to the giver. A desire kiss is messier, accountable, and mutual. That’s what he’s asking for: not kindness, but truth.
Quote Details
| Topic | Romantic |
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| Source | Lyric line from "Lover, You Should've Come Over" by Jeff Buckley; track on the album Grace (Columbia, 1994). |
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Buckley, Jeff. "Kiss me out of desire, but not consolation." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/kiss-me-out-of-desire-but-not-consolation-63584/.
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"Kiss me out of desire, but not consolation." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/kiss-me-out-of-desire-but-not-consolation-63584/. Accessed 7 Feb. 2026.






