"Laughter, and the broader category of humor, are key elements in helping us go on with our life after a loss"
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Grief doesn’t just empty a room; it rewrites the rules of being in it. Allen Klein’s line is bluntly pragmatic about that: humor isn’t a betrayal of loss, it’s a tool for surviving the day after. Coming from a businessman rather than a poet, the sentence carries the stamp of someone who thinks in terms of function and endurance. “Key elements” is boardroom language, almost comically dry for such a tender subject, and that’s part of the point. Klein frames laughter as infrastructure, not inspiration.
The subtext pushes back against the cultural script that treats mourning as a performance of solemnity. If you laugh, you must be “over it” or disrespecting the dead. Klein refuses that false binary. Humor is positioned as permission: a socially acceptable crack in grief’s armor where breath can get in. The phrase “broader category of humor” widens the aperture beyond jokes to include absurdity, storytelling, even the dark, sideways comedy that often shows up at funerals. It’s a quiet acknowledgement that grief itself can be surreal.
“Helping us go on” is carefully modest, too. Not “healing,” not “closure,” not redemption. Just motion. The intent isn’t to romanticize loss; it’s to argue for a coping mechanism that restores agency when life feels commandeered. In a culture that monetizes wellness and packages bereavement as a linear journey, Klein offers something more honest: laughter as a pressure valve, not a finish line.
The subtext pushes back against the cultural script that treats mourning as a performance of solemnity. If you laugh, you must be “over it” or disrespecting the dead. Klein refuses that false binary. Humor is positioned as permission: a socially acceptable crack in grief’s armor where breath can get in. The phrase “broader category of humor” widens the aperture beyond jokes to include absurdity, storytelling, even the dark, sideways comedy that often shows up at funerals. It’s a quiet acknowledgement that grief itself can be surreal.
“Helping us go on” is carefully modest, too. Not “healing,” not “closure,” not redemption. Just motion. The intent isn’t to romanticize loss; it’s to argue for a coping mechanism that restores agency when life feels commandeered. In a culture that monetizes wellness and packages bereavement as a linear journey, Klein offers something more honest: laughter as a pressure valve, not a finish line.
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| Topic | Moving On |
|---|---|
| Source | Help us find the source |
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