"Life, is not a having and a getting, but a being and a becoming"
About this Quote
Coming from Myrna Loy, the subtext matters as much as the sentiment. She was a major Hollywood star built inside an industry that literally turns people into commodities - faces bought, sold, lit, and replaced. In that context, the quote reads less like a poster and more like testimony from someone who watched “getting” devour colleagues: the chase for roles, youth, approval, and a public self that never quite belongs to you. Loy’s career also spanned eras when women were expected to treat marriage and social polish as their main “having.” Her phrasing resists that tidy accounting.
What makes it work is its refusal to offer a simple alternative. “Being” isn’t passive; “becoming” implies ongoing revision, a self under construction. It’s not anti-success, it’s anti-scoreboard. The intent is to re-center value where it can’t be audited: character, presence, growth. In a culture that measures life by receipts, Loy argues for a life you can’t easily prove you’ve lived - except by how you live it.
Quote Details
| Topic | Meaning of Life |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Loy, Myrna. (2026, January 15). Life, is not a having and a getting, but a being and a becoming. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/life-is-not-a-having-and-a-getting-but-a-being-104888/
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Loy, Myrna. "Life, is not a having and a getting, but a being and a becoming." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/life-is-not-a-having-and-a-getting-but-a-being-104888/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Life, is not a having and a getting, but a being and a becoming." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/life-is-not-a-having-and-a-getting-but-a-being-104888/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.














