"Listening is a magnetic and strange thing, a creative force. The friends who listen to us are the ones we move toward. When we are listened to, it creates us, makes us unfold and expand"
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The line “creative force” is doing double duty. Listening is creative because it produces something new - not advice, but a fuller version of the speaker. Menninger’s subtext is relational: identity isn’t minted in isolation; it’s co-authored. “When we are listened to, it creates us” carries a clinical echo of the therapy room, where the patient’s story often arrives fragmented, ashamed, or rehearsed for dismissal. Attentive listening becomes an antidote to that dismissal, giving the speaker permission to risk complexity. They “unfold,” a verb that implies patience and time, not interrogation.
There’s also a mild indictment here: we “move toward” the friends who listen because most people don’t. In a society that rewards quick takes and competitive conversation, Menninger’s idea remains unsettlingly contemporary. He’s arguing that attention isn’t just kindness; it’s infrastructure for personhood.
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Menninger, Karl A. (n.d.). Listening is a magnetic and strange thing, a creative force. The friends who listen to us are the ones we move toward. When we are listened to, it creates us, makes us unfold and expand. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/listening-is-a-magnetic-and-strange-thing-a-87518/
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Menninger, Karl A. "Listening is a magnetic and strange thing, a creative force. The friends who listen to us are the ones we move toward. When we are listened to, it creates us, makes us unfold and expand." FixQuotes. Accessed February 3, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/listening-is-a-magnetic-and-strange-thing-a-87518/.
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"Listening is a magnetic and strange thing, a creative force. The friends who listen to us are the ones we move toward. When we are listened to, it creates us, makes us unfold and expand." FixQuotes, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/listening-is-a-magnetic-and-strange-thing-a-87518/. Accessed 3 Feb. 2026.



