"Listening, not imitation, may be the sincerest form of flattery"
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The subtext is a quiet critique of social life as theater. Imitation is easy to counterfeit because it stays on the surface: you can echo a laugh, borrow an opinion, mimic a gesture. Listening is costly. It demands time, patience, and the willingness to be changed by what you hear. That’s why it lands as “sincere” - not because listening is morally purer, but because it’s harder to fake. Most people can mimic; fewer can tolerate the vulnerability of real receptivity.
Brothers’ context matters. As a mid-century psychologist who became a mass-media presence, she spent a career watching Americans learn to speak in slogans while quietly starving for being understood. In that world, the quote is less self-help than social diagnosis: our default mode is to curate, to compete, to perform closeness. She’s proposing a different economy of regard. The best compliment isn’t “I could be you.” It’s “I’m here with you, and what you’re saying matters enough for me to let it land.”
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Brothers, Joyce. (2026, January 17). Listening, not imitation, may be the sincerest form of flattery. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/listening-not-imitation-may-be-the-sincerest-form-54101/
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Brothers, Joyce. "Listening, not imitation, may be the sincerest form of flattery." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/listening-not-imitation-may-be-the-sincerest-form-54101/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Listening, not imitation, may be the sincerest form of flattery." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/listening-not-imitation-may-be-the-sincerest-form-54101/. Accessed 21 Feb. 2026.










