"Love consists in desiring to give what is our own to another and feeling his delight as our own"
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The subtext is a quiet argument against both possessiveness and performative generosity. Wanting to give is not the same as giving to be seen giving. Swedenborg builds in a test: if the others delight does not actually become yours, youre not in love, youre managing an image or buying security. Its also a rebuke to acquisitive modern instincts long before modernity: the ego that hoards cannot love because it cannot metabolize someone elses happiness without envy or debt-keeping.
Context matters. Swedenborg straddled Enlightenment rationalism and an intensely mystical Christianity. He treats affection like a spiritual physics: true union is a transfer of selfhood, a merging of ends. In a culture that often confuses love with intensity or consumption, his definition insists on a more difficult arithmetic: the self expands by subtraction, and the deepest pleasure is shared ownership of delight.
Quote Details
| Topic | Love |
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| Source | Verified source: Angelic Wisdom Concerning the Divine Love and the Divine ... (Emanuel Swedenborg, 1763)
Evidence: Love consists in this, that its own should be another's; to feel the joy of another as joy in oneself, that is loving. (Section 47). The commonly-circulated wording (“Love consists in desiring to give what is our own to another and feeling his delight as our own”) is a close paraphrase/variant of Swedenborg’s statement in Divine Love and Wisdom §47. In the Project Gutenberg transcription of the Swedenborg Foundation Standard Edition, this sentence appears immediately under the numbered heading “47. DIVINE LOVE AND DIVINE WISDOM MUST NECESSARILY HAVE BEING [Esse] AND HAVE FORM [Existere] IN OTHERS CREATED BY ITSELF.” The Gutenberg file also states: “First Published in Latin, Amsterdam, 1763.” Other candidates (1) Happiness A to Z (Louise Harmon, 2015) compilation95.0% ... Love consists in desiring to give what is our own to another and feeling his delight as our own . -EMANUEL SWEDEN... |
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