"Love consists in desiring to give what is our own to another and feeling his delight as our own"
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The subtext is a quiet argument against both possessiveness and performative generosity. Wanting to give is not the same as giving to be seen giving. Swedenborg builds in a test: if the others delight does not actually become yours, youre not in love, youre managing an image or buying security. Its also a rebuke to acquisitive modern instincts long before modernity: the ego that hoards cannot love because it cannot metabolize someone elses happiness without envy or debt-keeping.
Context matters. Swedenborg straddled Enlightenment rationalism and an intensely mystical Christianity. He treats affection like a spiritual physics: true union is a transfer of selfhood, a merging of ends. In a culture that often confuses love with intensity or consumption, his definition insists on a more difficult arithmetic: the self expands by subtraction, and the deepest pleasure is shared ownership of delight.
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| Topic | Love |
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"Love consists in desiring to give what is our own to another and feeling his delight as our own." FixQuotes, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/love-consists-in-desiring-to-give-what-is-our-own-73064/. Accessed 1 Feb. 2026.













