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"Love involves a peculiar unfathomable combination of understanding and misunderstanding"

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Arbus nails love to the wall with a paradox that feels less like poetry than a contact print: brutally honest, slightly unsettling, impossible to argue with. Coming from a photographer who made her name looking straight at what polite society preferred to crop out, the line reads like a manifesto against the fantasy of perfect intimacy. Love, she suggests, isn not a clean merger of two souls; it is a messy double exposure where clarity and distortion coexist in the same frame.

The genius is in "peculiar" and "unfathomable". "Peculiar" keeps it from becoming a greeting-card aphorism; it signals something off-center, a private weirdness specific to each pair. "Unfathomable" denies the modern craving to therapize love into a solvable problem. You can do the work, talk it out, learn the "right" language, and still find that the person you know best remains partly opaque. That opacity isn a failure; it is part of the charge.

The subtext carries Arbus's whole project: the belief that closeness doesn’t erase difference, and that trying to force legibility can become its own kind of violence. Understanding, in this formulation, isn omniscience; it is attention. Misunderstanding isn neglect; it is the stubborn remainder of another person’s interior life. In an era increasingly obsessed with authenticity and self-disclosure, Arbus offers a darker, steadier comfort: love survives not by conquering misreadings, but by making room for them.

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APA Style (7th ed.)
Arbus, Diane. (2026, January 15). Love involves a peculiar unfathomable combination of understanding and misunderstanding. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/love-involves-a-peculiar-unfathomable-combination-4015/

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Arbus, Diane. "Love involves a peculiar unfathomable combination of understanding and misunderstanding." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/love-involves-a-peculiar-unfathomable-combination-4015/.

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"Love involves a peculiar unfathomable combination of understanding and misunderstanding." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/love-involves-a-peculiar-unfathomable-combination-4015/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.

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Diane Arbus (March 14, 1923 - July 26, 1971) was a Photographer from USA.

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