"Love is, above all, the gift of oneself"
About this Quote
Anouilh’s theater is full of characters forced to choose between purity and compromise, self-possession and self-sacrifice. In that light, “gift” is slyly double-edged. A gift is freely given, yet it creates obligation, a moral ledger. To “give oneself” can be holy or hazardous: an act of courage, or the beginning of self-erasure. The line doesn’t guarantee reciprocity; it doesn’t even guarantee wisdom. It only insists on the cost.
Context matters: a French writer shaped by the turmoil of mid-century Europe, Anouilh watched ideals get bartered in public life. His work repeatedly asks what people trade away to survive. Here, love becomes the most intimate version of that question. If politics is the art of compromise, love is the private arena where we pretend compromise is noble. Anouilh refuses the pretense. He makes love sound like what it often is: a chosen vulnerability with consequences.
Quote Details
| Topic | Love |
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| Source | Verified source: Ardèle ou la Marguerite (Jean Anouilh, 1948)
Evidence: You know very well that love is, above all, the gift of oneself. (Act II (page 160 in the Lucienne Hill English translation excerpt shown)). This line appears as dialogue spoken by the Countess in Act II of Jean Anouilh’s play Ardèle ou la Marguerite (first staged 4 Nov 1948). The commonly-circulated English quote matches the wording in an English translation excerpt hosted on Scribd; the same passage is also attested in French as: « Vous savez pourtant bien que l’amour, c’est avant tout le don de soi. » (seen in a performance transcript and on French quotation sites). To verify “first published,” you would need to consult the earliest French edition as printed by Éditions de la Table Ronde (commonly dated 1949 in some bibliographies despite the 1948 premiere). I could not access a scan of the 1948/1949 first printed edition to confirm the exact page number in that original printing. Other candidates (1) Because God Is Love: Understanding the Love of God and Wh... (Fersen Perera, 2015) compilation95.0% ... love is , above all , the gift of oneself . " ( Jean Anouilh ) Giving is therefore the very simple , yet fundamen... |
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