"Love is always being given where it is not required"
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The subtext is ethical as much as emotional. “Required” is the language of duty, institutions, and social permission. By placing love outside that framework, Forster defends a private, unruly force against the neatness of rules: class rules, family rules, respectability rules. It’s also a soft rebuke to the idea that we can rationalize care into something efficient. The unwanted gift can be misread as weakness or bad taste; Forster frames it as evidence of genuine feeling precisely because it isn’t strategically deployed.
Context matters. Forster’s novels orbit the friction between inner life and public convention, especially in early 20th-century England, where attachment could be policed by etiquette and, in queer lives, by law. In that world, “not required” doesn’t just mean unnecessary; it can mean unofficial, unsafe, unsanctioned. The sentence works because it smuggles a radical claim into plain language: love’s credibility lies in its lack of authorization.
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| Topic | Love |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Forster, E. M. (2026, January 17). Love is always being given where it is not required. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/love-is-always-being-given-where-it-is-not-35518/
Chicago Style
Forster, E. M. "Love is always being given where it is not required." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/love-is-always-being-given-where-it-is-not-35518/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Love is always being given where it is not required." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/love-is-always-being-given-where-it-is-not-35518/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.









