"Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired"
About this Quote
The subtext is bracingly modern. To want to be "irresistibly desired" is to want confirmation, not just connection; explain me back to myself, prove I matter, make my presence inevitable. It flirts with vanity, but it's sharper than that: it sketches love as a negotiation with insecurity. The beloved becomes mirror and audience. Frost, a poet often misremembered as pastoral and cozy, smuggles in a cold-eyed psychology: affection as appetite, and appetite as a bid for power. If you're the object of irresistible desire, you don't just feel loved; you feel un-dismissable.
Context matters because Frost wrote in an era that still performed courtship as restraint and propriety. This line punctures that decorum by naming the engine underneath: the wish not simply to give oneself, but to be chosen so decisively it feels fated. It's romantic, yes, but romantic with teeth.
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| Topic | Romantic |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Frost, Robert. (n.d.). Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/love-is-an-irresistible-desire-to-be-irresistibly-28915/
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Frost, Robert. "Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired." FixQuotes. Accessed February 2, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/love-is-an-irresistible-desire-to-be-irresistibly-28915/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired." FixQuotes, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/love-is-an-irresistible-desire-to-be-irresistibly-28915/. Accessed 2 Feb. 2026.










