"Love is blind; friendship closes its eyes"
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Nietzsche turns a sentimental proverb into a scalpel. “Love is blind” is familiar enough to feel like folk wisdom: passion makes us miss the flaws. Then he twists the knife: “friendship closes its eyes.” Blindness sounds accidental, even innocent; closing your eyes is a choice. The line accuses friendship of complicity. Not in the cheap sense that friends “ignore red flags,” but in a more unsettling way: friendship often survives by tactful omissions, by refusing the full, humiliating clarity we demand from truth.
That’s pure Nietzschean psychology. He’s suspicious of moralized feelings that advertise themselves as pure. Friendship, celebrated as honest and elevating, can also be a shelter for vanity, a pact of mutual preservation. The friend may see precisely what love can’t see - the weakness, the self-deception, the mediocre motive - and still decide not to speak. Silence becomes a technology of loyalty.
The subtext also lands on Nietzsche’s broader project: dismantling comforting narratives about virtue. He’s not advocating cynicism as a lifestyle so much as describing the human economy of relationships, where affection trades in selective perception. Friendship, like morality, can be a performance that keeps the social world workable. Telling the whole truth all the time isn’t heroic; it’s often antisocial, sometimes cruel.
Read against Nietzsche’s own isolation and his contempt for herd-conformity, the aphorism feels like a warning. Choose your blindness carefully. Love may be an intoxication. Friendship is the sober agreement about what not to see.
That’s pure Nietzschean psychology. He’s suspicious of moralized feelings that advertise themselves as pure. Friendship, celebrated as honest and elevating, can also be a shelter for vanity, a pact of mutual preservation. The friend may see precisely what love can’t see - the weakness, the self-deception, the mediocre motive - and still decide not to speak. Silence becomes a technology of loyalty.
The subtext also lands on Nietzsche’s broader project: dismantling comforting narratives about virtue. He’s not advocating cynicism as a lifestyle so much as describing the human economy of relationships, where affection trades in selective perception. Friendship, like morality, can be a performance that keeps the social world workable. Telling the whole truth all the time isn’t heroic; it’s often antisocial, sometimes cruel.
Read against Nietzsche’s own isolation and his contempt for herd-conformity, the aphorism feels like a warning. Choose your blindness carefully. Love may be an intoxication. Friendship is the sober agreement about what not to see.
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| Topic | Friendship |
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| Source | Rejected source: The Nietzsche-Wagner correspondence (Nietzsche, Friedrich Wilhelm, 1844-19..., 1921)IA: nietzschewagnerc00niet
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